Divorce is always a difficult time for both parties, but it can be made much easier if you know what NOT to do.
What we often see in other articles about mutual divorce is lots of tips on how to go about things or what the process entails, but there’s seldom any mention of what not to do during this stressful period.
In these topics, you will know the 11 tips which should be taken in order to ease your divorce and ensure that you aren’t taking any actions which might make it ugly or increase fights between yourselves – because when you start fighting with one another, then it becomes a contested divorce, instead you should focus on what will help both parties in this difficult time.
"Divorce is an emotional and stressful process for anyone who goes through it. It's especially tough when you're on good terms with your soon-to-be-ex".
The mutual divorce process can be a long and difficult one. It’s important to know what you should do, but it’s also just as important to know what not to do. In this blog post, we will discuss 11 things that you shouldn’t do during your mutual divorce process!
1. Remember the word “CONSENT” during the whole procedure
The word “CONSENT” is the most important thing to remember during a mutual divorce process.
It should be a consenting process and both partners need to agree on everything because that’s what it means by ‘MUTUAL‘.
This also applies when deciding how much time you should spend with your kids after separating from their other parent, who
If one partner is not happy with any decision, then it should be reconsidered because that person does not have to agree.
By following this rule of mutual consent, both partners will feel acknowledged and respected during the divorce process which will reduce fighting and increase peace in a relationship.
It’s important for couples to remember that they are on the same side when getting through a divorce together.
2. Don’t get into fights with your ex-spouse over who gets what
It’s always best to remember that you are fighting for the same side, and while it may seem like a good idea in the heat of the moment to fight about how assets should be split up, you will both end up feeling unhappy.
In most cases, couples decide on property division during the mutual divorce process through an agreement between themselves or by arbitration which can help reduce conflict and make things easier for everyone involved.
You’ll want to find other ways besides arguing about money-related issues
Don’t avoid your ex-spouse or the mutual divorce process because you think it will make things easier.
The longer you put off working through these details, the more likely it is that they will be harder to hash out in court later on which is not necessary for a mutual divorce process.
It’s much better just to have an honest conversation about assets and how they should be handled now rather than waiting until a judge tells you what is going to happen.
3. Don’t try to settle things without consulting a lawyer first
It’s important to have an advocate who understands your needs and has experience in this type of case, so you can feel confident about how things will play out for you and your family.
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See, the harsh truth is that you both have knowledge of what to do but not how to do this divorce thing.
Divorce by mutual consent in India has certain legal complications to be fulfilled first.
A mutual divorce can not be done on stamp paper.
This is a common myth in India. The whole process – from filing the joint petition in the appropriate court to getting the divorce decree – needs an expert.
Yeah, that expert is known as an advocate or attorney.
Of course, you can go ahead and file it yourself but why take a risk in such a sensitive matter? Well, any mistake in the paper will hound you for life. Sorry, but it’s true.
4. Don’t ignore court orders or other legal notices you receive from the court system
Caution! – This is very important
The legal notice is not just some random letter. It has the power to change your life and you need to respect that and take it seriously.
If court orders are ignored, then there can be adverse consequences for both parties in a divorce case. These could include:
– an increase in the lawyer’s fee as the result of more hearings or motion practice;
– sanctions imposed by the judge such as fines, probation with community service, or even jail time;
– changes on property rights like custody arrangements (where applicable)
– child custody or maintenance issues can get affected.
You should carefully read any papers served by the court system so that you know what they say and when something needs to happen next.
You will also want to follow up if you don’t understand anything about the problems these for outlook
Readers should also be aware that withholding information could lead to a finding of contempt. This means the court can hold you in criminal and/or civil contempt, which often carries with it some pretty hefty penalties like fines or even jail time.
This is why you need an advocate who will aggressively pursue any information relevant to your case from both spouses’ divorce lawyers, rather than settling for what they are willing to provide upfront.
5. Remember that there is always someone out there willing to help
You are not alone. And why should you? We are always there by your side as your legal friend.
It’s important to remember that there are people out there who will help, like family members, friends, and even professionals such as lawyers, like us, and mediators if needed!
Never get depressed because of this. Yeah, it’s easier said than done but still you need to focus on your future and coming opportunities and not cry over the past.
Don’t get into a fight with your spouse about stupid things because it will only make the divorce process worse. It’s better to avoid conflict and keep communication open so you can work together for a smooth outcome!
Talk to an expert if you are uncomfortable or unsure of what steps to take next.
6. Don’t make promises you can’t keep
Commit to the things that are important and have a plan for what’s going to happen if your spouse doesn’t want to do them.
You don’t need anything in writing from your spouse, it is just as binding as the verbal agreement so don’t sweat this one too much but still get some sort of confirmation on agreements before proceeding with any major decisions or actions.
What you should do:
– set a time frame for the change and then try to work together on what needs to happen if one of you misses the deadline.
– write up a plan that will allow at least one person to make decisions or changes without having their spouse’s approval in case they are not available.
This includes things like finances, parenting schedules, etc. Be sure to include contingency plans for when there is disagreement – this can get messy!
– maintain open communication about your feelings and thoughts as these may be triggered by certain events (i.e., holidays) so it’s best to have an understanding from day one on how each other will react in different situations before those emotions arise again during divorce proceedings.
7. Don’t expect your children to forgive and forget easily
This is a very important point. Children are never the ones to make decisions for themselves in divorce, but they do need support and understanding from both parents throughout their lives.
A child is never asked what he wants actually during the mutual divorce process because he might want both parents with him or he is not that mature to decide.
Children are actually more emotionally injured as everything around them is happening without their will and they feel helpless.
Please do not expect any piece of maturity from them – give them some time.
They will likely experience some anger or sadness because of the change in parents as well as other things that happen during separation such as going back and forth between homes when used to living in only one place before, feeling like life’s unfair now, etc., so it’s vital that you be there for your children after divorce too!
8. Don’t let your emotions get the best of you – it’s not worth getting an unfair settlement
One of the biggest mistakes couples make while going through a mutual divorce process is letting their emotions get the best of them.
Don’t be hard on yourself as well as do not make things harder for the spouse.
You may be thinking that it’s worth fighting for what you deserve in court, but as we’ve discussed before this will only lead to more arguments and stress.
Courts can also take years to reach decisions so there’s really no point!
It’s better to take some time and reach a satisfying futuristic and logical agreement than to become an emotional fool or make one and settle an unfair agreement.
9. Don’t use social media as a sounding board for your divorce proceedings
It is not advised to post things about the person or you personally that will undermine the mutual respect and dignity of one another on public sites like these which may be seen by friends and family members who do not know how delicate this process can be.
It’s also more than likely that some people could judge you in turn so it’s best to avoid any potential backlash if at all possible.
During the whole mutual divorce process, it is better not to use any public platform as that would lead to a more traumatic situation.
We have often come across situations where couples are trying their level best to make sure they divorce amicably but then end up fighting over trivial matters because of something posted on social media site-whether consciously or unconsciously!
10. Don’t be afraid of filing for divorce
It is a legal process that will end in you being happier and healthier.
It’s not going to happen overnight so don’t make any rash decisions around the time of your separation, think about how you can work towards a mutual agreement with your partner as soon as possible.
Some couples feel like they are giving up on their marriage when they file for divorce but this couldn’t be further from the truth!
Filing for divorce sets into motion things that could lead to fixing aspects of one’s life health, financial situation, emotional well-being, etc.
Once we come out strong on our own two feet with all these things sorted out then there would have been no other.
The sooner you start the process, the less time it will take.
Take a deep breath and know that this is not going to be an easy road but with determination, compassion, and patience you can get through anything.
If your partner has children from previous relationships or marriages then think about how they might react to the change in living arrangements as well before making any decisions around them too.
11. Do not speak ill about your spouse in front of children or other family members
We are talking about parental alienation here.
It is not only complicated but it can also lead to some really bad consequences like the children becoming bitter, resentful, and even aggressive.
So, please don’t do that, especially while going through the mutual divorce process.
Don’t speak ill about your spouse in front of children or other family members.
Think about how the kids might react before making any decisions around them too.
It’s important to remember that there are two people involved here with feelings so always try to find common ground with each other as much as possible.
Parental alienation will just not lead to the alienation of another spouse from the child but the child’s behaviour and thought process.
So if you’re angry with your spouse or feel like there is no trust present at the moment, it might be best to take some time out for yourselves before engaging in family affairs.
In conclusion, we may say that this mutual divorce is actually better than a contested divorce – but it is a divorce after all.
There will be consequences. Negative and positive.
Be prepared to face the life-changing good and bad things with open hands.
These points or tips are not the only things to be taken care of while having a mutual divorce process, there can be more.
All we wish for you is that you have a happy divorced life.
Let’s not make divorce an excuse to stop this beautiful journey called LIFE.